“Swirling” Book, About Inter-Ethnic Relationships, About To Get A Lot More Attention

The cover of the recent book, soon to be a movie.

Well this could go either way, it could shine a positive light on mixed couples, and it could generate mocking and a backlash of sorts form people who might think this, and the book, is purposely encouraging mixed dating and relationships. This is from a piece written by  Tambay A. Obenson:

Surely to stir up lots of conversation before a single frame is even shot… George Tillman Jr’s State Street Pictures has picked up feature film rights to a book titled Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed, co-authored by pop culture blogger Christelyn D. Karazin and journalist Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn.

Tillman will direct the feature film adaptation himself, which will be exec produced by Tillman, as well as both Karazin and Littlejohn, along with State Street Pictures co-chief Robert Teitel.

State Street Pictures creative executive Stacy Glassgold will oversee the development of the film, based on the book which was, as the press release states:

Written as a dating wake-up call for African American women [that] quickly attracted general audience readers both male and female. It is the first handbook on navigating the exciting, tricky, and potentially disastrous terrain of interracial, intercultural and interfaith relationships, with testimonials and expert tips on how to make the bumpy ride a bit smoother.

“Swirling” debunks social, cultural and sexual myths on “dating out” and serves as a practical guide for coping with disapproving friends and family, and offers advice from mixed couples who are happily “swirling.”

The book was released just a couple of months ago – May 15, 2012 – by Atria Paperback (Simon & Schuster), and has been met with both critical and reader approval.

Generally I prefer when mixed couples and dating is treated as just a normal choice as to opposed a whole movie being based on that aspect of a relationship solely. I think anything that makes it look people are specifically looking to date someone because of their color or ethnicity feeds into the negative stereotypes of these relationships. That is not to say this book or movie does that as I have not read it yet. And good movies have been done in the past that had mixed relationships or people as the center plot point, Guess Who’s Coming To Dinner and Imitation of Life come to mind. Depends on how it is treated I guess.

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7 thoughts on ““Swirling” Book, About Inter-Ethnic Relationships, About To Get A Lot More Attention

  1. This sounds like more interracial propaganda. The reality is that in a system of white supremacy,race will always be an issue. No matter how many black people hop in the bed with white folks will change this fact. Anyone who thinks interracial marriage/dating will change this is delusional at best. The fact is that people who have the will to end racism don’t have the ability to do so. And the people who have the ability to do it–don’t have the will.

    • Earnest Harris says:

      I understand your points. I certainly agree that mixed dating and marriages will not end racism. However I think the main point for me is that those who choose to date someone of a different ethnicity or skin color, or religion, should be able to do so without worrying about all the political and social issues that some would attribute to their choices. It should simply be OK for people to date whomever they want, whether society approves or changes as a result. Sometimes people just want to be together because they want to be together.


      • In my experience there seems to be a lot of different reasons why people date other races. And they’re not always just about love. I live in California so I see 4 or 5 interracial couples a day. It’s just about everywhere out here. I do agree that everyone should have to right to date/marry whomever they choose. Whatever those reasons may be. I also don’t think there should be any laws that ban who someone can marry. Having said that,the question is should black people marry whites? How does it benefit black people? Does it lessen racism? Does it cause more racial understanding? I don’t really like labels but I lean more towards a Pan African or Black nationalist philosophy. So these questions are a concern of mine. This is a list of things I think black folks need to wake up and realize:

        That we live under a global system of people who classify themselves as white, and are dedicated to abusing, and or subjugating everyone in the known universe whom they classify as not white.
        That the biggest problem on the planet is racism/white supremacy
        Makes some effort by his or her thoughts, speech, and actions to eliminate the system of white supremacy
        Is “black-identified” — meaning they view the world through a “black perspective” that validates self, respects self, and promotes self AND group interests
        Does not confuse “assimilation/integration” with whites as “black progress” or “racial equality”
        Understands that blacks “assimilating” into a white supremacy system is “subjugation” NOT “integration”
        Understands that blacks who control nothing cannot be “equal” (in power) to whites who control everything
        Does not elevate blacks with a white parent as superior to blacks who have two black parents — and does not praise blacks for looking more white than black
        Does not blame poor blacks (the biggest victims of white supremacy) for being poor and black.
        Does not blame black people for the crimes of the white supremacy system
        Understands that knowing AND respecting their history is the KEY to black liberation
        Understands that the ONLY true ally of the black male is the black female and the ONLY true ally of the black female is the black male
        Understands that the FAMILY is the foundation of every human society
        Understands that RESTORING THE BLACK FAMILY should be the number one priority of the black collective
        Understands that an authentic BLACK FAMILY is composed of a black man, a black woman, and a black child (or black children)
        Understands that it takes strong, committed black males and black females to build strong black families
        Understands that it takes strong black families to build strong black communities
        Understands that it takes strong black communities to build strong black business/economic bases
        Understands that WITHOUT strong black families, strong black communities, and strong black business/economic bases, the black collective lacks the tools for prosperity, security, AND survival
        Understands that none of the above is possible without BLACK UNITY
        Understands that OPPOSING INTERRACIAL SEX has NOTHING to do with hating white people
        Understands that opposing (and avoiding) interracial sex is necessary to ensure the economic, political, genetic, and psychological SURVIVAL of blacks in America
        Understands that interracial sex (dating, breeding, and marriage) should be avoided/opposed because it destroys black UNITY.

      • Earnest Harris says:

        I appreciate your response.

        But with that said we have to disagree on much of what you said. The main thing I disagree with is that a couple, of any ethnicity, should not have to bear the weight of their entire culture when they make a choice of whom to date, or marry. I think all people have a right to simply fall in love with whomever they choose as an individual. Ultimately people just want to be happy, and it is already hard to find that person someone can love for a lifetime. There is no need to cut off all other people based on skin color. Now I do agree, there are some mixed couples that are together for less than pure love reasons. But I can’t judge that choice either. True freedom comes from being able to make whatever choice I want. Believe it or not, I can contribute to a strong black community even when I am not married to a Black woman. As I also know there are people married within the Black community, who do nothing to contribute to that community. It is, I think, a matter of heart.

        Thanks for reading and giving your thoughts.

  2. Yes ,you’re correct,a black man can contribute to the black community and be married to a white woman. Harry Belafonte comes to mind. But what message does it send? How can you be pro-black family/community and NOT be with a black woman?lol Sounds like a contradiction to me. But I know what you’re thinking. Harry Belafonte is NOT pro-black family,right? If he was he would be with a black woman?
    My main objective is to improve and uplift the black community. I can’t do that with a white woman. And you will be judged by whom you “choose” to date/marry. The main problem that black people face is disunity living under white supremacy.When the black male uplifts the white female by offering her MORE emotional and financial support (benefits) than he offers the black female, the black female has no incentive to be loyal to the black male OR his agenda because she is NOT receiving the emotional OR financial benefits she rightfully deserves. She will then focus all her attention on her grievances with the black male.
    In addition, the black female loses respect for black males collectively because they have FAILED TO FULFILL the role that ALL MEN must fulfill to be RESPECTED AS MEN: to protect AND provide for the women and children of their ethnic group.
    Do not misunderstand the definition of “benefits.” This has nothing to do with gold-digging, materialism, fancy cars, jewelry, expensive homes, or “bling-bling.” This is about economic, social, and cultural SURVIVAL.
    The males and females of every ethnic group have different roles in every human society. The male is the leader and the head of every nation. The female is the BEARER OF CHILDREN, the nurturer, and the values-transferor for the next generation. To maintain HARMONY between the male and female, their complimentary roles must be fulfilled to the best of their ability.
    When black males — collectively — break the sacred covenant between the male and female that has existed since the beginning of the human race, and PUBLICLY protects and provides for the females of his enemy, the black female RIGHTFULLY views those black males as her ENEMIES rather than her respected, cherished, and necessary ALLIES.
    I understand how your mindset is. About 15 years ago I had the same mindset. I used to believe that America could be color blind.And that interracial marriage would create a post-racial world. But now the blinders are off. After years of study and reading books by Frances Cress Welsing,Neely Fuller and Amos Wilson–it gave me a whole new perspective. I now realize that the black community and family is STILL under white supremacy. And I will do everything I can to wake black people up from their racial amnesia. They have been brainwashed to believe racism is just about gone just because Obama is now in office. When you have limited information your opinions are skewed. Your opinions are shaped by what you know. All I can say is that until you understand how white supremacy operates,everything else you THINK you understand will only confuse you.
    Peace and be well.

    • Earnest Harris says:

      I appreciate where you are coming from. And believe me I do agree that one very important goal is for Black women to know that they are as beautiful as any other women and I get tat all too often mixed relationships, those involving White women with Black men particularly, don’t help with that message. This is especially true when successful Black men, often seem to choose White women. But again, I also believe every one, including Black women, have to have the choice to find and fall in love with whomever they find that seems to fulfill them. Believe me I know there are centuries of issues our society is dealing with. But love, if a relationship, is simply coming from that place, has to be free or I think none of us, no matter the culture, have a chance at real freedom.

      Again, I am glad to have your respectful and intelligent comments even when we disagree. Thanks.

  3. Yes I understand where you’re coming from. I’ve had some very interesting debates here on Worpdress. I enjoy the back and forth. It gives me a way to see different perspectives. I appreciate the feedback. And I agree,black women are beautiful. At least we can agree on that.lol

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